Marriage

There are clear guidelines for preparation for marriage within the Catholic Church.

Please read below notes on Getting Married.

Requests for Marriage - some notes:

  • It is advised that a preparation course should be attended at least 6 months before the wedding date.
  • To be married in Switzerland you should be a registered Roman Catholic – with your local state authorities and with your Swiss parish of residence.
  • If the ESCM priest is to celebrate the wedding get permission for this from your local Swiss parish priest.
  • If you are to marry abroad make an appointment to come and speak to the priest.

Registered at the ESCM?

  • Please make contact/an appointment with the priest as soon as possible
  • If possible Do NOT set a date for your wedding until you have met with him.
  • We share St. Anton’s church with the Swiss parish and the Spanish Mission and wedding dates are made by all 3 communities.
  • Please refer to the website for general information on the Sacrament of Marriage and its administration here at the ESCM. (website >>> sacraments>>>marriage)
  • Ask your Swiss parish of residence to email the ESCM office to confirm that you are registered as a Roman Catholic and that they give you permission to attend the pre-marriage course and/or to celebrate your wedding in the ESCM.

Not registered at the ESCM?

  • Ask your Swiss parish of residence to email the ESCM office to confirm that you are registered as a Roman Catholic and that they give you permission to attend the pre-marriage course and/or celebrate your wedding in the ESCM.
  • After this, you may register with us.
  • Then follow the same itinerary as registered members of the ESCM

 

A pre-marriage course is required by most Catholic Parishes in the world. The course aims to help the couple look at the areas of their relationship that can be a souce of difficulty and conflict in married life.

In recent studies from Catholic Counselling Agencies the following top ten issues were identified as topics that must be discussed by the couple before they get married. During this course we will address the following items-

  • Having children
  • How finances will be managed
  • How children will be brought up
  • How the couple will share chores and responsibilities
  • How much time they spend together
  • How bad habits in the other are seen
  • What will you do when you disagree
  • How to talk and listen to each other about difficult issues in ther elationshiop, such as sexual problems
  • Future plans and ambitions
  • Relationships with extended families

 The purpose of the pre-marriage course is to help the couple to prepare as best and as fully as possible.

The importance of, and adequate preparation for, marriage is addressed in Church Law ( Canons 1063-72) and suggests that preparation for Christian marriage is itself a journey of faith in itself.
“It is a special opportunity for the engaged couple to rediscover and deepen the faith received in Baptism and nourished by their Christian upbringing. In this way they come to recognise and freely accept their vocation to follow Christ and to serve the Kingdom of God in the married state.”
"During this time of preparation, as well as completing the necessary pre-marriage formalities to ensure both a valid and legal marriage can take place, the couple’s expectations of each other and acceptance of their strengths and weaknesses can be explored. However, because of the meaning of the Sacrament the parties should be led towards a deeper understanding and appreciation of their role in “fostering the wellbeing and growth of the Christian community” of which they are part."

 

On marriage

Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.v

And when it subsides you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that

it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement,

it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.

That is just being in love, which any fool can do.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,

and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground

and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches,

they find that they are one tree and not two.

Louis de Bernieres